让爱传出去

现实生活中,有多少人能真的不计后果地付出一切,只为了让世界真的变得更美好一点?我和妈妈一起看的这个电影,她说在结尾,根本不可能有这么多人一起出动只为了纪念这个男孩,太戏剧化了. 可是我觉得那很真实.在美国的一个小镇上这完全是可能的.我不希望世界上的人们都那么冷漠.至少,请对你身边的人好些.

一个初一的小男生，因为社会课老师说的一段话：你们终有一天会自由，没有作业，不用学习，摆脱父母老师的啰嗦。

可是，如果到那天，你发现自己还没有准备好，发现这个世界就是一坨屎（shit），你会怎么办？

所以，我们应该从现在起努力把它变得好一点。

小男孩于是想出一个主意：他帮助三个人，然后每个受到帮助的人再接着去帮助三个人，依次传下去。

我们都会觉得小男孩的想法是乌托邦，太过理想。

事实上，电影中，小男孩帮助的三个对象，也只有一个成功，另一个算半成功，最后一个的帮助也让小男孩付出了自己的生命。

可是，就因为付出了行动，小男孩的爱确实传递出去了，跨越了整个美国东西岸。

最后，伴着”make the angel out“的乐声，人们点亮蜡烛来送别小男孩。

蜡烛的光虽然微弱，却照亮了当晚的空，照亮了我感动的泪。

似乎这个环境，这个社会，这个时代，有太多我们想吐槽，想抱怨的。

北京的霾从去年开始，逐渐占领了这里的天空；《北爱》里人们的浮躁，贪图物欲的享受，企盼快速卷钱，压迫得男男女女丧失了纯粹的爱情；社会财富的不公，使得有志青年难以展开拳脚；一次次失却道德的社会事件报道在新闻里，让我们几近心灰……然而，我们的心理，终究住着一个天使。

我们期待着过年。

其实年味儿越来越淡，大家真正期盼的是一家团聚的温馨。

站台口，一个女孩儿抱着一个中年妇女等待行李，不时，还往中年妇女的脸上蹭一蹭。

她们相视而笑，兴奋地聊着；电影院，看完《北爱》，一对情侣并不像其他人立马站起离开，而是显得很欣慰，温暖地亲吻彼此；健身房里，妈妈带着女儿来跑步，女儿疲惫地说”太累了“，妈妈摸摸女儿的头”陪妈妈跑完，好不？

“于是，女儿又乖乖地走上跑步机……赵薇的一句歌词”我们不习惯和陌生人说话“，然而，我感受到了太多来自陌生人的温暖。

从恩施转车回家，不知道怎么坐车，于是去问一位大叔，结果旁边的大哥大姐都热心地过来跟我讲解怎么坐车；而路上的偶遇，倾心的交谈，更让我结识了同兴趣的忘年交；还有那么多萍水相逢，而我知道他们在努力为自己的梦想奋斗，坚持美好的人……自然，不能否认那些不好的存在。

可是，我很同意杨澜说过的一句：这个世界存在着光明的一面和黑暗的一面，但比较好的是，我们有选择往那边走的权利和自由。

是的，我们可以选择。

只要我们不像这则故事中的主人公，我们可以活得很自在，很快乐。

杰克是一个建筑工人。

由于外面的饭太贵，杰克和他的工友每天都自己带饭。

每到午饭时间，工友们都会听到杰克抱怨：我真是不喜欢三明治，太难吃了。

每天如此。

终于有一天，工友们受不了了，问：杰克，如果你那么不喜欢三明治。

为什么不让你的妻子给你换一种食物呢？

杰克回答：你说什么？

我没有妻子。

从来都是我自己做的三明治。

很多时候，我们就是故事里的杰克。

抱怨着工作不如意，生活不如意；其实，什么样的生活和工作，是我们自己的选择。

如果实在不喜欢，我们可以改变。

所谓的抱怨，没有任何意义。

它只会让你陷入灰色的生活不能自拔。

但谈到改变，谈到行动。

又让我想到了《私人定制》的结尾。

葛优饰演的角色接受记者采访，被问到：如果有多少多少东西，会不会捐？

葛优都义正言辞的说：捐！

可是，当问到，眼前的车会不会捐，他依然义正言辞地说：不捐。

因为，他确实拥有这量车。

不要把责任义务都推给别人，我们应该承担起应尽之责。

从对自己负责开始。

回到电影，小男孩的母亲和老师在寻求幸福途中也不是一帆风顺。

小男孩的母亲是一个酒鬼，有一个同样好酒的暴力老公。

这位母亲曾多次向男孩保证要戒酒。

可是，都没有实践。

直到他们一次激烈争吵，母亲甚至出手挂了孩子一耳光。

此时的她疯狂地在屋里找酒，在她搜遍了各个曾经藏酒的地方，最后在厨房的吊灯找到一瓶。

她贪婪地喝了一口。

幸运的是，她马上吐了出去。

她找到儿子说：我知道，我保证了很多次。

你没有必要再相信我。

但是，我现在只想告诉你事实。

我有问题。

我希望你能支持我，帮助我一起克服这个困难。

母亲和儿子相拥而泣。

后来，母亲慢慢地戒掉了酒。

要改变原有习惯，是一个艰难的过程。

可是，母亲为了孩子，坚定了戒酒的心。

勇敢并不是没有畏惧，而是在心存畏惧时意识到有更重要的坚守而努力前行。

在承认“我有问题”时，这位母亲已经成功了一半。

当然，要走的路远不是这么容易。

这只是喝酒的问题，还有一个酒鬼的暴力老公，如何摆脱他；如何和同样有童年阴影，却是一个有责任感的老师走到一起获得幸福，还有太多的故事要书写。

而小男孩自身的传爱计划，最终，也使自己失去了生命。

这不得不说是一个很令人伤心的结尾。

然而，它却是一个写实的结尾。

行动、改变，着实不易；一路上，磕磕绊绊；但只要我们做好了这样的心理准备，我们走上了这条路，我们就会不断向前，即便曲折。

老祖宗老早就说：勿以恶小而为之，勿以善小而不为。

这种点滴积累的态度应该推崇。

我们不需要做轰轰烈烈的大事，只要在日常平凡细琐的小事中留心，心中的蜡烛就会点亮。

Make the angel out！

Pay it forward！

一部让人泪目的片子。

这个世界上有太多让人困于原地的事情了，这个世界也有太多不愿意迈出那一步的人了，同样这个世界也有很多敢于迈出那一步的人。

人类对于未知的恐惧是天生的，人类的惰性同样也是天生的，记得在《追忆似水年华》中有一段就说人总是沉迷一种规律，机械，不需要思考的生活中，这样最安逸。

但是这真的好吗？

我不知道。

反之面对恐惧迈出那一步又真的好吗？

我也不知道。

我只是确定我们需要一些人来踏出这一步，我们需要勇敢的走出去。

不要因为害怕而错失了体验的机会。

我们不做，可能结果为0，我们做了可能会为正，也可能会为负。

但是，去他妈的概率学吧，就像主角说的，或许会没用，但是或许会好点吧，让我们为这美好的可能去改变自己吧。

Page 0 The protagonist is ironing his shirt. We can see from his hand and face that he has been burned before.Page 1 A reporter hears the police communication about a violent crime taking place, so he rushes to the scene to get the scoop. Instead, his car is crashed by the criminal and the police are just too busy with the chase to notice. Then a stranger shows up and gives him a brand new Jaguar out of the blue. The reporter is freaked out about the generosity. (TEASER)Page 5 4 months earlier. A school with metal detectors at the entrance. The students are not strangers to sex and violence. Trevor saves a little kid from the bullies who try to bring knives into the school without triggering the metal detector. Page 6 The students enter the classroom while the teacher is working on his map. When he turns to the students, they are silenced by the burn scars on his face. The teacher introduces himself and he is the social study teacher. He talks about the truth of why the kids don’t have to think about the world. And why the kids should do something to change the world before they are face to face with the huge disappointment. Trevor is inspired when he learns that the teacher changes the world by passing knowledge to the students. (EMOTIONAL OPPORTUNITY FOR TREVOR. THE TEACHER HAS THE IDEA BUT NOT THE COURAGE AS HE HAS BEEN SERIOUSLY INJURED BEFORE)Page 12 Trevor rides bicycle in the desert and back to his neighborhood. He rides to the place where homeless people are gathering. (PHYSICAL OPPORTUNITY FOR TREVOR)Page 15 The stripper club. The waitress refuses to drink as she has promised her kid and she turns down sexual offers on the ground of marriage. She turns out to be Trevor’s mother who calls to check on him, not knowing that he has brought a homeless guy home, eating with him. There is obviously some communication issue between the mother and son.Page 18 The mother gets off work and takes the bus home. When she gets home, Trevor is already asleep. She goes to the garage and thinks for a while. Finally he finds a bottle of alcohol from the washing machine and drinks with great satisfaction. Not knowing that the homeless guy is sleeping in the back of the truck. But in the middle of the night, Trevor still finds out about the empty bottle.Page 22 The next morning, Trevor expresses his anger about her sneaking of the alcohol. Just when they are arguing, the homeless guy appears asking for toilet paper. The mother is so shocked that she kicks the guy out, which makes the son even angrier and tells his mother that she won’t understand the assignment from the teacher.Page 24 The mother goes to see the teacher angrily. The teacher sees through the communication issue between mother and son right away. The mother is so frustrated that she attacks the scar on his face. The teacher takes the insult in. The mother looks up the words she doesn’t understand in the dictionary.Page 27 The reporter comes to see the stranger who is a senior partner at a law firm asking about what is going on with “pay it forward”. So the lawyer talks about his story: when he was in the hospital with his daughter without any doctor taking care of them, he had an argument with the nurse. A black patient is angry about the situation and fires his gun to get the nurse’s attention, which the lawyer appreciates very much. That’s how he learned about “paying it forward.”Page 30 The mother is woken up by the noises in the garage. It turns out to the homeless guy again who has fixed his truck. He talks about how Trevor gave him hope, how he knows the value of the opportunity and what is at stake. He also talks about the concept of “paying it forward”, which piques his mother’s interest. (CHANGE OF PLAN: PAY IT FORWARD STARTS TO TAKE EFFECT IN PEOPLE’S LIVES)Page 33 Trevor explains the concept to the class. At the same time, the homeless guy explains it to the mother, who is emotionally connected with him. The teacher is impressed by the idea and calls it admirable. For the first time, Trevor comes to the teacher personally and asks him about his true opinion of his idea. He also asks him about his face. But the teacher thought it was just a prank played by the class until he sees that Trevor walks away alone.Page 38 Trevor goes to knock on the door of the homeless guy, who is too weak to come out to see Trevor as he is back to drugs again. He crosses Jerry out from his notebook. He writes down his teacher’s name on his notebook as the next person he is going to help. (COMPLICATIONS FROM THE HOMELESS GUY)Page 41 Trevor gives his teacher a note nervously. He tries to setup a date between his teacher and his mother, successfully. He lies to them individually and even lights a candle to nudge them to have dinner together. Everything is doing well until the sponsor comes to interrupt. (PROGRESS WITH THE TEACHER. THIS IS UNIQUE AS THE TEACHER INSPIRES THE KID INADVERTANTLY TO HELP HIMSELF.)Page 46 Trevor is angry that his mother messes the date up and deep down, she is still waiting for his father to come back. When Trevor starts to doubt her love, she slaps his son on the face and begins to look for alcohol everywhere until she finds one bottle from the lamp. When she comes back to her senses, she discovers that Trevor is missing. (EMOTIONAL COMPLICATIONS WITH THE MOTHER)Page 50 After she has called the police with no result, she has no choice but to call the teacher to look for him, as she doesn’t have a car. She becomes very honest with the teacher admitting that all of her friends are drunks, including herself. Finally they find Trevor in a bus station where a pedophile tries to seduce him. The teacher is so angry that he beats the shit out of the pedophile. The mother apologizes to Trevor from the bottom of her heart and admits to Trevor her big problem. The mother is very appreciative and asks the teacher to have dinner with her later. But the teacher doesn’t think it will be appropriate. (PROGRESS WITH THE TEACHER AND MOTHER BECAUSE OF TREVOR’S MISSING)Page 55 The reporter goes to the jail asking the black patient about “paying it forward”. He claims that it was his idea. (PROGRESS FOR THE REPORTER)Page 57 The teacher selects a shirt so that he can go to see the mother. He is like a teenage boy checking his hair before meeting her. He pretends that he bumps into the mother by pure accident and tries to invite her to dinner, very awkwardly. (THE TEACHER IS INSPIRED BY TREVOR)Page 59 The reporter comes to see his friend who works for the governor about pushing the parole date for the black patient.Page 60 The mother comes home late and it drives Trevor crazy. He picks dresses for his mother and makes her ready as soon as possible, fearing that lateness will be interpreted by the teacher as lack of respect. Meanwhile, the teacher is impatient about the time. The mother is so happy that his son has called a cab for her already. The mother arrives just before the teacher walks away. (POINT OF NO RETURN: DATE BETWEEN THE TEACHER AND THE MOTHER)Page 63 The reporter goes to jail again asking the black patient about his story. He was stealing a store and then helped by an old woman to escape from the police. When she tells him that he is not good enough to pay it forward, he insists on doing it. (POINT OF NO RETURN FOR THE REPORTER)Page 67 Trevor goes to play in the amusement park with his mother and sponsor. The mother is still trying to deny she is seeing the teacher. But the talk with the sponsor makes her realize the connection between them. When she asks the teacher to spend the night, although the teacher struggles really hard internally, he kisses her passionately until he snaps out of it. (RISE OF THE EMOTIONAL ANTAGONIST FROM THE TEACHER)Page 70 The reporter decides to look for the old lady, even though his girlfriend doesn’t understand the rationality behind it. (HIGHER EMOTIONAL STAKE FOR THE REPORTER)Page 71 At home, the teacher arranges his pictures with nice music on. Suddenly the mother rushes in and asks him if he looks down upon her. The teacher uses big words to compensate for his scars on the face. Although the mother tells him that she doesn’t care about the burns, the teacher still freaks out and is reluctant to step out of his comfort zone, which saddens the mother. (RISE OF THE EMOTIONAL ANTAGONIST FROM THE MOTHER)Page 74 The little kid is bullied by the rogue kids again. When Trevor sees it, he is lack of the courage to help. So the little kid is thrown into the garbage bin by the rogue kids in the end. Trevor is so sad that he crosses the name “Adam” from the notebook where the teacher’s name has already been crossed out.Page 76 The teacher comes to Trevor as he has cut his class. But Trevor is very disappointed in the teacher as he stops calling his mother. Trevor tells the teacher that paying it forward doesn’t work and pushes him to call his mother before his father comes back. Trevor is profoundly disappointed that he couldn’t change the world. (RISE OF THE ANTAGONIST FROM TREVOR)Page 80 As the mother is cleaning the refrigerator, the teacher comes to knock on the door and makes love to her. He reluctantly shows her scars on the body. The next morning, when Trevor finds out that the teacher has spent the night, he is so happy that he asks the teacher to pay it forward. (HIGHER STAKES)Page 83 The reporter drives his new Jaguar to seek his story. Meanwhile, the homeless guy saves a lady’s life on a bridge when he asks the lady to save his life.Page 86 Trevor is having the time of his life with his teacher and mother watching wresting until his father comes back. He promises to his mother that he is sober now. The teacher has no choice but to leave. Trevor is devastated. (EVERYTHING IS LOST)Page 90 The mother comes to see the teacher explaining that she wants to give the father a chance. The teacher is so angry at her decision that he tells her the story about how his father abused his mother and burned him for life. (FINAL EMOTIONAL PUSH FROM THE TEACHER)Page 95 Trevor and the reporter meet for a second by accident. The father is very angry about the fact that Trevor’s not talking to him and he has been drinking. So his mother admits that she has made a mistake and kicks him out of the house. Meanwhile, the report goes around the town, doing his investigations. (FINAL PUSH FROM THE MOTHER)Page 98 Trevor is angry that the teacher is not paying it forward to his mother. But the teacher refuses to do that as he is mad at her for making the wrong decision no matter how hard Trevor begs. (FINAL PUSH FROM TREVOR)Page 102 The reporter finds the homeless old lady, who tells him that she got the idea from his daughter. It turns out that she is Trevor’s grandma and the mother came to find her and forgive what the grandma has done according to Trevor’s wishes. (FINAL PUSH FROM THE REPORTER)Page 106 Trevor’s 12 year old birthday party. He is disappointed that the teacher is not here. The reporter finds the boy at home and tells him that the movement has reached LA. (EVERYTHING IS TRULY LOST)Page 108 The reporter takes the boy to the school so that he can conduct the interview. During the interview, Trevor talks about how much he has failed because some people are just too scared to make changes and makes the world a shitty place.Page 110 The teacher suddenly wakes up and doesn’t want to be one of those scared people Trevor was talking about. He kisses the mother with passion. Meanwhile, Trevor sees his friend being beat up again. This time he musters enough courage to help. But before the teacher can intervene, the boy is stabbed by the bad boys to death. (FINAL PUSH BY THE TEACHER; RESCUE AND SACRIFICE FROM TREVOR)Page 115 After his death, the news celebrates what Trevor has done for the world. In the middle of the night, the mother and teacher wake up and are stunned to see how people line up to celebrate Trevor’s life.Page 120 Directed by Mimi Ledger

一看一个老师的教学水平，其实都不用去听他的课，看他布置给学生们的作业题目就知道了。

席莫奈老师布置给学生的作业是：尝试用自己的方式去改变世界，让这个世界变得更好。

而我的老师布置给我的作业是不断地背诵和抄写。

不同的作业题目，反映了老师不同的教育观。

不同的教育观，来自不同的价值观。

在新学期的第一堂课上，席莫奈老师问学生：这世界对你的意义何在？

你觉得世界对你有什么期望？

问题反映着关注的方向。

席莫奈老师在和学生们讨论这个世界，我的老师们和我讨论的永远是比鸡毛蒜皮更无聊的考试。

二问题决定方向。

我们问自己什么样的问题，我们就会成为什么样的人。

“如何用自己的方式改变世界，让这个世界变得更好？

”这个问题启迪男孩崔佛去思考，去行动。

他的单车驶过贫民区，他在本子上写下自己可以帮助的人名。

他去细心的留意人们真正的需要。

去帮助流浪汉，帮助自己的母亲、老师和总是被学校里的小混混欺负的朋友。

他在行动中感受到自己的力量（和无力）。

一个人的力量并不取决于他的年纪，而是取决于他是否已经开始行动。

他在行动中失败，在失败中思考。

“这世界就是这么烂吗？

”他沮丧的问自己的老师。

——当他帮助过的流浪汉再次去吸毒，当他面对朋友被欺负时却没有勇气挺身而出。

当他看到人们困在自己的习惯里，那样难以改变。

“如果你长大后，发现这个世界不是你喜欢的样子呢？

如果它很糟糕呢？

”——无论有没有一个老师或者父母提出过这个问题，这终究是每一个人都要去面对的问题。

在某一天。

三我很喜欢席莫奈老师，电影里没有他在灯下批改学生的作业的镜头，也没有他无微不至的去关心学生们的生活的细节。

他每天认真的熨自己的衬衫，坚持自己的原则，对于迟到的学生并没有无限的温柔与宽容，当学生问他满脸的疤痕是怎么回事，他也没有去满足学生的好奇心。

他不向学生开放自己的隐私和私生活。

相反我不喜欢那种“无微不至”的老师，不喜欢那种把自己的全部身心都献给学生的老师。

我觉得一个人要沦陷到什么程度，才会没有自己的爱好和生活，以至于学生或者孩子竟然成为他的全部？

四问题意识是成长的关键。

但问题不能替代行动，正如目标不能替代路线。

崔佛每天在思考：“我怎么做才能把这个世界变得更好？

”另一部电影《十月围城》里的少年李重光也在思考类似的问题。

（“我闭上眼，眼前全是中国的明天。

”）他们都想让这个世界变得更好（都为此付出了生命），但却选择了完全不同的路径，并且造成了截然不同的后果。

李重光认为世界变得更好的希望在领袖身上。

所以他为了保护领袖（孙中山）牺牲了自己。

崔佛则认为让世界变得更好是自己的“作业”，所以他为了保护一个同学牺牲了自己。

五通往地狱的道路常常是那些梦想让世界变得更好的人铺就的。

电影里男孩崔佛最打动我的一点，是他知道“让世界变得更好”是他自己的“作业”，他没有让别人来为他完成作业。

——这是很多成年人不明白的事。

“让世界变得更好”，也是很多成年人给自己布置的作业（梦想）。

崔佛完成作业的方式是骑着车去贫民区，把流浪汉带回家，给他东西吃；是自己写纸条，准备好蜡烛和鲜花，促成老师和自己妈妈的约会；是面对学校的小混混们的暴力挺身而出帮助弱者，直至付出生命。

很多成年人完成这道作业的方式却是呼吁社会或政府来“有所作为”。

（这种行动方式类似于一拿到家庭作业就去找爸爸来做。

）六面对着记者的镜头，崔佛说“……习惯原本生活的人不容易改变。

就算现状很糟，也很难改变。

他们还是放弃了。

他们一放弃，大家就都是输家。

”在崔佛倒下去很多年后，在大洋彼岸，关于“自我与世界”，也有了一场对话。

一个女孩问：“怎样才能既认识到世界的残酷和恶意，又同时爱这个世界，充满希望的生活？

”布尔费墨回答说：“你要为自己生命的意义负责。

想做什么就要想办法去做。

不要恐惧，不要拖延，趁你还有时间。

”图片来自：电影《把爱传出去》剧照个人公号： 风吹花落雪（fengchuihualuoxue)

电影看了两遍，我们觉得自己很弱小，好像没有什么能量，其实留心自己身边的人和事，哪怕是一个微笑，或是一句鼓励赞美的话语，也可以帮到身边的人。

只要自己成为榜样，那麽力量是无穷的！

电影或许有些太过理想化，但那个理想化的世界才是我们今日为之奋斗的理由。

大概只有伟人，圣人，还有儿童可以拥有如此的单纯的理想，才可以做到坚持内心中的那一团火花，让人们亲身感受到希望与光芒。

当他单纯的想法被散播出去，成人世界那阴暗无比的利益显得微不足道，我们都活在了规则里，却忘记了那些规则，那些利益，从一开始都只是想要找寻幸福的。

自己愈发的爱上去观看这些感人至深的电影，不断的将自己从人性的恶里拉扯出来，去注意到我们所还拥有的善良，去接触到我们最原本的理想。

每看一部电影，自己很少的会去评价剧情，很少的会去评价手法，因为自己不懂，也更因为自己并不需要懂。

是他们可以唤起的共鸣让自己愿意将自己的时间换成文字，换成对这些优秀电影的感想，也是他们所引起的共鸣在这个世界产生作用。

学习积极心理学的时候认识到了一件事情，自己散播一份快乐出去，快乐可以散播成两份、三份、乃至全人类。

反之痛苦也毅然，多么期望在中国也看见如此感人至深的故事被传播出来，多么的期望有那么一个散播爱的运动从自己的祖国冉冉升起。

自己很想做那样的人，所以在努力做那样的人，每一个感人至深的电影都为自己对人性的善建立起一道壁垒，让自己在这物欲横流的社会不被击垮。

一步两步三步，学会感恩，学会帮助他人，每一次说出这样的话，就是在突破这个社会给自己锁上的枷锁，那个令人们戾气横生，为了一己私欲互相伤害的枷锁。

加油。

“当你第一次睡在垃圾堆旁，第一次用报纸盖住自己的身体，只要有一个人过来拉你一把，哪怕是来自一个孩子的帮助，你都会接受...”电影中的流浪汉说。

我们无法改变这个世界。

这是我们固有的观念。

但是很多时候，大概是由于我们的思想，限制了我们的行动。

真实的一幕：几个月前的某天，我和小寻路过大观河的一座铁桥，一个妇女正试图从桥的护栏上翻下去。

我和小寻就在桥的一端，周围还有些人看见就绕道而行。

当时我迟疑了几分钟，正在想是否应该带电话报警，然而此时小寻已经冲过去把妇女拉了下来，搀扶到桥边...伸出你的双手，拉她一把，或许就改变了她的命运。

看完这部片子，我相信也许我们甚至都无法改变自己的命运，但是很多时候只是自己的举手之劳，却仍然可以改变别人。

不要吝惜你的爱，让它们不断的传递吧！

伸手摘星未必如愿，但不会弄脏你的手。

感人指数：五星温情指数：五星观赏指数：五星此外，希望观看此片时，不要过分纠缠故事情节以及人物设定等内容。

首先：Kelvin就是一脸疤，也还是那么帅！

不讲什么大道理，爱与世界，世界和平。

光是这一点，与原生家庭和解，已经可以让世界更美好N倍。

与原生家庭和解，就是2017年听到的词，原生家庭即指父母的家庭，儿子或女儿并没有组成新的家庭，这样的家庭泛指原生家庭。

原生家庭会影响每个人的一辈子！

我还没好好研究这个概念，但是我理解，就是，放下你原生家庭对你的伤害，原谅你的父母对你的伤害，真正敞开心扉，去理解他们，去谅解他们，去放下这些伤害。

我一直以为我的童年很幸福，但是当我有孩子之后，我发现，我很多地方像我妈妈，不是她好的方面，是我最不喜欢她的方面，譬如有点跋扈、譬如有点自我、譬如有点……虽然不是很大的问题，但是让我意识到，我没有原谅我妈妈在这方面给我人生带来的负面影响。

但是理解了每个人都不一样，每个人都有缺点，所以我现在原谅了我的原生家庭，原谅了妈妈对我的负面影响，我发现我成为更好的我。

看到本文的你，我希望你去原谅你的原生家庭，他们有他们的不容易，他们有他们的初衷，他们有他们的性格，他们也有他们的原生家庭对他们的伤害……你会变成更好的你，世界也会因为更好的你变的更美好！

祝福你！

《pay it forward》美好人生，哈佛大学心理学课程《环境的力量》提到的 指数增长，提到把爱传下去，这部电影，你帮助三个人，一个很大的忙，让他们分别也去帮助三个人，把爱传下去，20个人就可以传递到全世界了……，it’s amazing ，主人公是个小男孩，一开始做是想看看能否改变这糟糕的世界了，有的人不敢尝试改变现状，就放弃了，那这个项目也就失败了，其中小男孩救助的第一人一个流浪汉，请他回家吃饭，洗澡，流浪汉帮助她妈妈修好了车，说找到了工作，不会再吸毒了，但是毒瘾多难控制呀，小男孩以为这个人救助失败了，流浪汉救助了一位准备自杀跳桥的女士，他说：请我喝杯咖啡吧，你救救我吧，一个砸窗抢劫的被警察追捕获救的黑人，在医院里朝地上开了两枪，为了护士重视抢救得哮喘的姑娘，获得牢狱一年，姑娘的爸爸把爱传到了新闻工作者，随之调查，帮助黑人提前获得了假释。

不要害怕而不敢于改变现状